Women and Cook

Again...  

I might have different views on this matter and I am not expecting anyone to have a lengthy explanation to me to on “women and cook”.

I have been listening many negative comments on women who cannot cook. There are even suggestions by some “people” that women who cannot cook must not request for high dowry. Quite number of men and women who degrade the “women” and blame the parents for the incapability.

Yes, the old generations like our mother and grandmother, they can cook very well and they take care of other things as well. But, still we cannot compare the current and the past. The circumstances are different.

In the past, our grandmothers did not stay at boarding school and they spent their teenage days at home, helping their mothers on the chores.

Now, most of the girls went to boarding school for the full 5 years. After that, they continue their studies for another 4 years. And of course, while at the university, they would prefer to just buy the meals because cooking is prohibited in the pantry, time constraint and et cetera. So, do they have time to learn?

Likewise, when she is at university, others who can cook will always try to sneer her on her incapability in which that was not her fault at first. Other possible situation is the family lifestyle. If the family is always eating out and the mother seldom cook at home, sure the daughter will not be exposed to it. This too cannot be reflected back to the parents because definitely they have different lifestyle than you and you cannot expect the same output from them.

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My opinion on “Women and Cook” is that I really do not mind if my spouse cannot cook because she can learn it slowly after we get married. Apart from that, me and my family have been eating out for years and I do not mind about it since I only want to eat and I am not really choosy. Just once in a while, my mom will cook when everybody is home. Plus, women were not born to just cook, they are here to accompany the men. For me, the most matter is cleanliness. We can eat at restaurant but I cannot live in a messy house.

Well, it is kind of cute though when your spouse cannot cook and you guys help each other to preparing a meal. Over the time, she will learn.

So, to the women out there, do not stress yourself about it. You may learn it slowly and you are not going to open a restaurant, just you and your family. So, hopefully your future partner will not mind about this and be tolerate with you.

To the men, do not harm or degrade them. Support them and and appreciate whatever they serve you. Do not try to complicate their lives by having “weird” favourite foods.

That’s it.

Bye!

                                                **p/s : My English is not that good but i'll brush it up. So, don't take it serious ;)